Today we launch a BRAND NEW BLOG SERIES that will happen every Monday this spring right here at Sanctuary. We'll be busting up some ministry wife myths--misunderstandings that ministry wives either believe internally or hear externally from those they lead. At Sanctuary, we want you to find a safe haven, a place where others "get it". And through this series, you'll discover that you are not alone. And just maybe, you'll discover some freedom from myths that have held you back from all that God has called you to do and be.
First myth? I’m expected to say YES to everything I’m asked to do.
Of course, all of us know this isn’t really true. But most of us still give in anyway. After all, isn’t that what makes us good at what God has called us to do? Be there for everybody? Meet as many needs as we possibly can? Not according to Christ’s example throughout the Gospels. In fact, not even God Himself does everything He is asked to do. So, how does this translate to our everyday lives? We must be intentional about saying Yes to things that only we can do, not to the needs or desires that someone else could meet. After all, the casualties start stacking up when your Yes outweighs your No. One, you become depleted beyond your ability to perform. And nobody gets your Yes when that happens. But second, you may be robbing someone else of their own Yes if you are already in the mix, making it happen.
...the casualties start stacking up when your Yes outweighs your No.
What are some solutions to measuring what gets your Yes?
1. Pray. It sounds too simple but the Holy Spirit wants your best. So you can trust when He nudges you to say No, that He will send someone else along to make up the difference. And that He has a better Yes for you just around the corner.
2. Practice. It won’t be easy to say No when you’re in the habit of excessive Yes-ing. So give yourself grace and ask a friend or trusted loved one to hold you accountable. You might fumble along the way and say Yes before you’re able to catch it. But keep practicing. Practice doesn't make perfect, but it does lead to progress.
Let’s talk. What have you found to be helpful in giving your Yes to the best opportunities and No to those less urgent situations? Share with us in the comments below!
Bonus Resources: Check out our podcast + blog series on bidding farewell to burnout by clicking on the links below:
Blog: Bye Bye Burnout
Podcast: Bye Bye Burnout
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